As a writer...
I wrote Becoming a Mother initially to make sense of my own experience of being a mother. Upon having my first child I was met with many unexpected feelings of uncertainty and self-doubt. Compounding these feelings was the shame I carried about my own feelings of ineptness. Every other mother I knew seemed to find caring for their baby so easy yet for me it felt unfamiliar, daunting and some days, just plain hard! I carried my feelings inside, however, fearful of the judgement of others. It has only been upon sharing my experience that I have come to see that these are common feelings...but many women carry them alone.
Throughout the journey of writing, so many women were kind enough, and brave enough, to share their story with me. Their words are such an integral part of the book as they offer validation, thoughtfulness and wisdom to mother's like myself who found the early days of being a mother a bit tricky. Through their stories, we glimpse a remarkable truth. As we become mothers, we are transformed. The baby grows, and the mother does too.
D.W. Winnicott was a a well-known paediatrician and child psychoanalyst who spoke of the ‘ordinary, devoted mother’. She is one who, in spite of all of her imperfections, is transformed by the love of her ordinary baby into something extraordinary; one who is devoted. I have come to see, through both my own mothering journey and the privilege of sharing in other's, that we are all ordinary mothers attempting to offer our children something extraordinary.
Prior to completing Becoming A Mother, I was published in Parenting Express, the Courier Mail Write Small Competition and Reflections, Gowrie Australia Publications. My next writing projects include a book for children about developing core values and a book about developing a language of self care.